When your child’s team needs a coach…

Last month, my son’s friend from school shared that he wanted to play flag football with a local league. We decided to register our son to join his friend. Then I received an email saying they are short on coaches and looking for parents to volunteer. What would you do if your child’s team doesn’t have a coach?

A couple years ago or so, he was in a soccer team with a similar issue with the same league. One of his friends parents volunteered to coach only if my husband or I assistant coached. So, I did and we had loads of fun! 

This time, I waited. I hoped another parent would volunteer. I’m a mother, not a flag football coach! I’ve never played the game and don’t fully understand it! Then another email came a week later. Eeek! If we don’t have a coach, my son and his friend might end up on different teams! We can’t have THAT!!

What to do, what to do…I gave in. I volunteered myself to coach this flag football team. Today was the coach clinic. The director and assistant director showed us some drills we can run with the kids. And showed how the younger children may be a little more challenging to complete drills with as the older kids already have some experience with the drills. 

My son being in the middle of the extremes, I’ll likely start off with the easier drills and may do a more difficult drill towards the ending of the season and the kids get to know each other a little better.

As a working mama, I believe keeping my child busy is important. And if I need to volunteer as the only mama coach, I’ll do it! It’s about spending time with my child and creating those memories. 

Word of the day Wednesday, May 24, 2017

A word I started hearing quite a bit a few weeks ago and even more the last few days: 

What IS collusion?? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines collusion as a secret agreement or cooperation especially for an illegal or deceitful purpose acting in collusion with the enemy. 

For example, you hear people gossiping or talking about things other than what their job is to do. This is collusion! Why? Because we get paid to do our job, not to gossip or talk about other topics. How much time each day do you spend doing things other than your job? Don’t be embarrassed if your answer is your entire shift 😬, it’s more common than you think! Does it make it right? Not necessarily. Please proceed as you desire. 

Now my family and I are listening to a news program and they have said the word “collusion” every other minute for the last half hour. 😳 The collusion this news program is talking about is evidence or no evidence of collusion regarding the votes cast for Donald Trump in the presidential election. I’m not trying to get into a discussion about this new administration, rather about the use of the word collusion. 

Collusion is common. It’s all around us whether we like it or not. Another news example is this past week, a cell phone provider had several stores where their employees walked out from their job. They were colluding with their company. There was a secret agreement for these employees to walk out on their jobs on the same day and at the same time for the purpose of disrupting their companies business process. 

Can you think of any collusion happening in your world?

Dealing with tragedy Tuesday, May 23, 2017

It’s with a sadden heart I write this. The tragic bombing at a concert at Manchester Arena last night was an act of terrorism. How can one be proud for killing innocent people? The first victim announced today was an 8-year old girl, the same age as my son. 

I grieve for those who lost their lives last night, I’m now hearing it’s up to 22 fatalities and 59 injured. I don’t think I’ll ever understand it, at least not in this lifetime. 

Give your loved ones extra hugs, extra love, and extra kindness. Not only because it’s so surreal to hear about a terrorist activity at a place of celebration, but because those around us need to hear and feel that we really do care. 

It’s so easy to give into our emotions, whether it’s pride or anger. Our words should lift others up instead of tear them down. It’s better to not speak than to say something that could potentially affect the feelings of someone else. I have been known to put my foot in my mouth quite often. I know it’s easier said than done. Let’s practice today and every day to be kind to others even when we don’t feel like it. 

My prayers for the victims families, the witnesses, the first responders, the community who stretched to accommodate concert goers, and for Ariana Grande and her crew. 

Weekends are hard, Sunday, May 21, 2017

Your child goes to school during the weekdays and spends most of his time with his teachers and friends. Some even go to before or after school care. It’s a routine they become accustomed to. 

Then the weekend hits. It’s when all bets are off, right? Instead of spending a couple hours before school and a few after school and into the evening, as parents, we have them the entire weekend. What are we to do?!

Sometimes there’s a battle between parents on how to discipline the children. Other times there’s just that stubborn child who just isn’t in the mood for listening to anyone. Then there’s the few (or maybe many) who fall under both. 

What do you do? As suggested in Proverbs, Ephesians, Psalms, Matthew, and anywhere else in the Holy Bible, it is recommended that as parents we watch our words. Be careful that we are not killing their spirit. It’s okay to discipline or correct, but be sure to do so lovingly. They’re just children after all. 

Speak gently. Stick to the rules that are set. Be firm, yet loving. 

I know this isn’t easy. I struggle with this whenever I’m with my son. He tends to think he rules my life. His feelings get hurt very easily. 

Choose your hard, mama! Sometimes you just need to stick to the rules, even when it’s hard…

Skincare Saturday, May 20, 2017

What’s the best way to care for your skin when working out and exercising? There’s so many ways to keep your skin healthy!


  • Be sure the equipment you use is sanitized properly. For those of you gym rats, you don’t know what was left behind after the last person. Take a few moments to wipe down the equipment before you use it. 
  • Remove makeup before your workout. Any makeup may clog your pores as you perspire resulting in breakouts. 
  • Pull back long hair. If your hair is lengthy, pull it back. Any products you use in your hair could drop down into your face, causing breakouts. 
  • Use my R+F Eye Cloths to remove even stubborn makeup

During workout

  • Perspiration is a great detoxifier
  • Try not to touch your face
  • Hydrate! Drink lots of water to stay hydrated 


  • Shower soon after you complete your workout; waiting until you get home later could result in clogged pores (not just on your face!)
  • Avoid over scrubbing; this could result in drying out your skin and result in eczema or other skin irritations
  • Moisturizer your skin with R+F Body Moisturizer and one of the facial moisturizers that fits your skin concerns

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It’s about Time Tuesday, May 16, 2017

“It helps to actually open the book you carry around everywhere.” That’s what I tell myself every day. What’s the sense of taking this book around with you everywhere u go unless you actually open it and read it! Otherwise it’s just decoration!

I’ve been hanging onto this book, Listen Live Repeat by Karen Ehman. I’ve read another book by this author and it was amazing, so I thought I’d try this one out. And this book was a book study with Proverbs 31 Ministries recently. As always, I fell behind on Day 1. 

Anyway, the chapter I’ve been carrying this book around for over a month. I just read chapter 2 yesterday. It was about time. We should sacrifice our own time now and then to help someone save their time. It could be to help them get their laundry done, now their lawn, go grocery shopping, whatever it might be.

When we give up our own time to help someone with their time, it builds relationships. It helps us to grow closer to one another because of that little thing you did for someone else. Be on the look out to help someone in their time of struggle. How can you be there for them in their time of need? It doesn’t even need to be someone you know!

Time is precious. When you take time out of your own life to help someone else, it means so much. So give of your time with a cheerful heart, not out of obligation. In this day and age, we are hard pressed for time, constantly in a rush. 

A Stanford University study suggests taking 10-minutes today doing something for yourself you hadn’t already planned. And take 30-minutes to donsomething for someone else. https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/research-there-are-big-benefits-giving-your-time

What are you doing with your time today?

Word of the day Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Who do you listen to the most? Yourself!! All that self-talk can be sabatoging or uplifting; it’s important that you choose wisely!

Word of the day today:

The words we tell ourselves is vital to our emotions and how we treat others. Believe it or not, it’s even important in getting great sleep and having awesome mornings! 

What in the world am I talking about? Well, I started realizing a couple months ago, my father never says, “I’m tired.” Yet I hear everyone else around me say it a LOT!! My father is one of those Energizer bunny people who is constantly moving and doing stuff, thinking and being creative. He still works full-time as a mechanic at nearly 78 years old!! 

As I thought about those little words, I realized That when you say it out loud, it makes your whole mind and body feel that way. Is dragging yourself through the day fun for you? If not, let’s change that self-talk! How about we tell ourselves, “I’m energized!” instead? Where your mind goes, your body will follow!

While reading Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod, he speaks about how thenlast thing you tell yourself before you go to bed is the first thought when you wake up. For example, when you tell yourself, “I’m going to be so tired in the morning.” You’ll wake up thinking, “I’m so tired.”

How about telling yourself, “I’m going to get five hours of sleep and wake up energized to do my exercise and spend 20-minutes doing self-development studying.” Would you know, that’s the first thing you’ll think about when you wake up?! It’s so amazing, you won’t regret it!!

Read Miracle Morning! I highly encourage it!!

I mentioned Miracle Morning yesterday, too!! My goals yesterday were:

  • Drink 32oz water πŸ’¦ without my water bottle at work with me – drank 32oz when I got home!! βœ…
  • Business 5/5/5 (I’m currently at 0/2/0) – 2/2/0 😟
  • Read one chapter of Miracle Morning – Yesss!! βœ…
  • Write down that target market – started!! 
  • Research target market interesting articles online – that was a goal? 😬

Okay then, let’s do this right today. Write down the goals!! πŸ™ˆ 

Is my handwriting legible? If not here it is typed:

βšͺ️ drink 32oz water πŸ’¦ 

βšͺ️ business 5/5/5

βšͺ️ read 1 chapter Miracle Morning

βšͺ️ read 30-min before bed

βšͺ️ find 1 article that may benefit my target market and share it!

βšͺ️ start a closed FB group for my PC only

Transformation Tuesday, May 9, 2017

Is there something in your life that you wished would be different? Transformed? Something that could help you get back to the path of reaching your dreams? Or maybe there’s a goal that you’re shooting for but just aren’t getting there yet?

It’s time to be transformed, my friend! Believe it or not, I read one chapter of Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod last night and it totally changed my view on sleep. 

Wait a minute, I thought we were talking about transforming our lives?! Give me a moment, I’m getting there!!

Okay, so in this amazing book, Elrod explains that it’s very important to self-talk. We should tell ourselves affirmations before we go to bed and we will wake up alive and excited! If you do the opposite, like tell yourself you’re just not going to get enough sleep, you’ll wake up in the same groggy, didn’t get enough sleep mood. And who wants that?!

Now, he’s onto something. I normally have an alarm set for 4:03am. Yes, I’m crazy. No I don’t actually wake up at this time in a normal basis. At least not to do anything productive. Last night, at about 10:30pm I told myself I was going to wake up after five hours with energy and alertness, that I’ll do my bible study and have a productive day. 

Guess what time I woke up without an alarm? 3:30am!! Who wakes up at 3:30am ready to face the world?? This girl did! And was I in shock! Then I configured 10:30pm + 5 hours…What was I thinking?? I could have told myself 6 hours and slept in another hour. 

Did you know I tried to go back to sleep like I usually do until 4:30am? Do you think I could fall back asleep? Nope, not this time!! I’m telling you, stop self-sabatoging your sleep and tell yourself what kind of morning you want to have and how long your sleep will be before getting that shut-eye! Trust me, you’ll love it!!

And when you do wake up, use that time to be productive! I recommend reading Miracle Morning! 

Okay, now reading a chapter was one of my goals yesterday, along with a few others. Here’s my progress for yesterday:

  • Drink 32oz water πŸ’¦ – 26oz
  • Business 5/5/5 (I’m already at 0/3/0) – 2/3/0
  • Post a nurses week promotion – posted Happy nurses week, no promo 
  • Read 1 chapter of Miracle Morning – yes!! βœ…
  • Begin writing down the target market – it was in my head, didn’t write it out

Now, today’s goals are very similar:

  • Drink 32oz water πŸ’¦ without my water bottle at work with me
  • Business 5/5/5 (I’m currently at 0/2/0)
  • Read one chapter of Miracle Morning
  • Write down that target market
  • Research target market interesting articles online

Are you Mediocre this Monday, May 8, 2017?

I’ve been reading this book by Hal Eldon called Miravle Morning. He states that 95% of people live a mediocre life. What does that mean? Mediocre people are those who go to work, do the stuff that needs to be done, go home to veg in front of the television, go to bed only to start all over again. Nothing changes. It’s always the “Oh, I’ll get to that tomorrow” or “That can wait until next week” kind of attitude and nothing really gets done. 

In other words, mediocre people are not shooting to better themselves or the state of their life. It’s all fine and dandy to be content or even complacent. Are you one of those people?? 

I started my own business a year ago. It was my way of not being mediocre. Then I did very little to actually grow my business, hoping it would just build on its own. I’m realizing that if someone were to open a storefront, they don’t just let it sit there in hopes of customers coming in. They actually need to get out there and draw people in! 

So here’s to a new week! By the way? It’s nurses week, so Happy Nurses Week to all nurses out there!! I appreciate you!! 

Here’s some non-mediocre goals for the week:

  • Drink 32oz of water πŸ’¦ daily (because I’ve accomplished that only once last week 😐
  • Business 5/5/5 daily before noon!
  • Promote for nurses week
  • Promote for Asian-American/Pacific Islander Heritage Month
  • Read 1 chapter of Miracle Morning daily
  • Write out my target market and research FB & Linkedin groups to follow and participate in by this Friday
  • Complete daily FB live videos directed to that target market starting by this Thursday 

Eek! Those are big goals for the week. Let’s get on it!! It’s almost 10am and I’m still short on the 5/5/5 for the day 😬 Hop to it!! Let’s not be the 95% mediocre anymore!! 

Okay now that the weekly goals are set, let’s narrow it down to today’s goals!

  • Drink 32oz water πŸ’¦ 
  • Business 5/5/5 (I’m already at 0/3/0)
  • Post a nurses week promotion
  • Read 1 chapter of Miracle Morning
  • Begin writing down the target market

I think that’s doable for the day πŸ‘πŸΌβ˜ΊοΈ