3 things to know before taking your child to a pedodontic dentist

“Did you brush your teeth?” I ask my son every night. “Yes,” he replies every single time. “I don’t mean this morning or last night. I mean tonight,” I respond. Suddenly there’s a lightbulb, “Oh!” as he jumps up to brush his teeth.

No, really, why do we constantly need to repeat ourselves every single day?! My brain says that the child should figure this out by now. But maybe, just maybe, he doesn’t actually SEE me brushing my own teeth so he doesn’t really know if it’s necessary?

This teeth brushing has been an issue for the last 8 years. Yesterday, my child ended up with a tooth extraction because an old cavity went bad and it was giving him a toothache. Our family dentist referred us to a pedodontic dentist. The last one we saw was amazing, but they book up quickly and we had to wait 3 months for an appointment! So our dentist referred us to a different pedodontic dentist.

My 8 year old and I go to this new dentists office. There’s a handful of children in the waiting room. The office staff review all the paperwork with me. We get called to an exam room where the dentist counts my son’s teeth, all foreign to my son as each tooth has a name. If I recall correctly letters represent baby teeth and numbers represent permanent teeth.

The dentist then discusses with me about how he can squeeze my son into his schedule for an extraction, as recommended by the family dentist. All was going well. My son is already at an age where parents sit out front while the child is sees the dentist alone. No parent around this area of the office. I’m asked to prepay for the procedure which I willingly do as it’s been recommended by our trusted family dentist.

My son is 8 and having a tooth extracted. I imagine the dentist walking him through the process, explaining what he might feel and hear and see. Then my son comes out with a tooth extracted and swollen. While lost in my imagination, I’m also pretending to read a book and watch the people around me.

An hour or so later, I hear my son’s name and I look up. I see the office staff person walking my son out. He has a gauze piece in his mouth, it’s likely too much and he wants to gag. I ask if he wants to change the gauze he nods. They change his gauze.

As we walk out of the office he starts crying and holding his cheek. He acts very angry. The walk to the car was a stressful one. My son’s pain level must have been higher than he expected. He cried and screamed. He didn’t know how to express himself.

We change his gauze again in the car. Drive home to give him some non-aspirin painkiller. As soon as we got in the house, he was crying loudly while pounding his fists on the floor. I changed the gauze pad, AGAIN. Then I asked if he wants to go to school. There’s only liquids until it stops bleeding, soft foods for 24-hours, and some salt water gentle swooshing the next day-3 days until the gums heal. No straws for 24-hours, too! No school today, please.

He finally calmed down about an hour after I gave him a non-aspirin painkiller and was playing on my iPad on the floor. He was distracted and comfortable. He was safe. He was missing a tooth and the bleeding had subsided. He’s was a much happier kid.

It was easier to talk to him after he calmed down. He shared that no one told him what would be happening during the procedure, step by step. He didn’t know what he might hear, what he might feel, or what to do if he feels pain. He had his arms held down so he couldn’t move. They placed a monitor in his face with the same show shown everywhere in the office.

My son also said he felt pain like he’s never felt before. Shouldn’t he have been numbed so he doesn’t feel anything? I didn’t feel any pain when my wisdom was pulled. He says that’s why he was screaming and pounding the floor when we got home. It was his way of holding onto his aggression until we were in a safe place. I’m blessed he at least knows how to do THAT.

3 things to know from what I learned from this experience (that I hopefully won’t need to go through any longer):

  • Observe your children as they floss and brush their teeth! I trusted that he knows how to floss and brush. Apparently, I’ve been wrong.
  • Ask a LOT of questions to the treating dentist for the CHILD’s understanding, not just your own. They process things different and a procedure like an extraction isn’t exactly an every day event your child will experience. I’ve never forgotten my experiences and I doubt my son will either.
  • Ensure your child knows you love him. I left my son without the usual hug and left the area. In hindsight, I should have ensured he knew what was going to happen instead of just going with the flow. My heart aches for my son as he had no clue how this would all go down.

Developing Discipline

One of the best emails I receive regularly comes from Success.com. It always has great tips and tricks for how to be successful.

What does "success" mean to you? Everyone will define "success" differently and it's all about perspective. In the Success Insider podcasts each interviewer is asked what "success" means to them.

Just today I found this article about developing discipline: http://www.success.com/blog/7-ways-to-develop-daily-discipline?utm_source=Maropost&utm_medium=Email&utm_campaign=Newsletters&utm_term=Inside%20Success&mpweb=574-4200614-742340835

In a nutshell, Success.com has 10 And tips for developing discipline:

  1. Set big goals
  2. Set clear goals
  3. Know that every day matters
  4. Don't argue with the plan
  5. Build a no-matter-what mindset
  6. Plan a routine
  7. Commit
  8. Understand the transformation process
  9. Go above feelings
  10. Resist the rain
  11. Find pleasure in the hard work

Check out the site for a description of each. Wonderful stuff! Which ones are you doing and which do you need help with?

Nighttime leg cramps

Growing up, my mother often complained about cramps in her legs at night. I remember hearing her saying, "Ow, ow, ow, ow!" in her bedroom. These charley horses were quite common in my mother's life and I never understood why. Until this morning…

About ten minutes before my alarm was to go off, I had the worst cramp in my right calf ever. I have never experienced such a cramp before. Technology is amazing because as soon as the pain subsides, I came straight to the internet to find out what causes leg cramps at night.

Did you know nighttime leg cramps are a pretty common thing? Many of us suffer from it, but we don't have to!! According to my brief research, nighttime leg cramps, or charley horses, are often caused by several reasons:

  • Dehydration
  • Over exercising or not stretching enough before and after as well as before bed
  • Lack of calcium, magnesium, and potassium

Now, drinking water has always been hard for me. I'm lucky if I drink two cups a day regularly. As I grow older I am working towards getting more water in my body before I shrivel up like a raisin! New goal: Drink 8 cups of water a day.

Exercising is something I try to do, but not strenuous. I ride a stationary bike at home so I am still present with my family, or at least close enough to know my son is not burning down the house. But the stretching is something I haven't been doing and this could be adding to my cramps. New goal: stretch before and after exercise as well as before and right after sleep.

Getting enough calcium, magnesium, and potassium may also be a concern for me. I have no idea which foods contain these nutrients! I Googled it! I found a great article on livestrong.com: http://www.livestrong.com/article/70088-list-foods-rich-magnesium-potassium/

New goal: Eat snacks throughout each day that contain nuts, seeds, legumes, whole grains, fruits and vegetables.

The ultimate result that I am looking for in all this is: No more nighttime leg cramps!! Today is a new day and I will stick to these goals for 7-days and evaluate my progress.

Be heart healthy on Workout Wednesday

Children love playing with their friends. They have more energy than many adults know what to do with! Heck, they run circles around me while I wish I had half their energy! Why is that?

Children are so resilient! They can be at soccer or football practice for an hour then want to keep running around afterward! Where does this energy come from?!

These kids are naturals at heart healthy activity. They find fun games to play that get their cardio in naturally. And on a side note, it teaches them socialization skills! Win-win! 

As adults, we find it so hard to squeeze in some exercise. It is recommended that adults get 20-30 minutes of cardio in 3-4 times a week. But where does that fit into your jam-packed schedule?!

Whether you’re in it to lose weight or to just remain heart-healthy, get that cardio in early. Cardio before breakfast forces your body to burn fat instead of the food you just ate. It’s a great way to lose weight! 

Can’t leave the house because you have small children who need supervision? Find a way to get cardio in while at home where you can keep an eye on those kids! Even if it’s a treadmill or stationary bike, raising that heart rate is very important for blood circulation! 

Did you know cardio also increases your metabolism? That was a buzz word once that everyone envied those with a high metabolism because they could eat whatever they wanted and never seem to gain a pound. Some of us have a natural high metabolism while the rest of us need to work to get it. 

Now, if cardio is so important and useful and it’s suggested we do it before breakfast, a great time is getting up before everyone else to squeeze it in! You will have more energy throughout the day and the morning shower will feel amazing! 

What kind of cardio do you get in regularly?

Bridging the generation gap in the workplace

There are many ways we bridge gaps in our workplace environment from gender, race, culture, origin, and age. When it comes to age, however, there’s so much more that comes with it than the years we’ve existed. Our work ethic, motivation, and natural tendencies seem to revolve around our environment and society. There are six generations that exist today whonkijely meet specific traits for the workplace. 


G1 are generally born on or around 1936 and experienced major events like WWI and the Great Depression. During this time period people could only buy when they were allowed to, rations were common-place, and hoarding may have been common. Traits of this generation included formalities and uniformity. It was more important for public interest than personal gain. Everything surrounded around making sure everyone had the necessities to survive and worked together make it day to day. 

This is my grandparents generation. Technically, my father falls under this as well. During the Great Depression, this forced people to be more cautious to not wasting anything. Living on a farm, my father grew up eating various parts of animals, not just the shoulder, leg, or wing. There is less waste for this generation. Use what you have and buy only what you need. 

Silent Generation:

The Silent Generation are about 67-75 years old now. They also grew up in the Great Depression, but they also grew up during WWII, and when the television and telephones hit retailers. Entertainment and communication was no longer required people to be face to face! 

I suppose my mother falls under Silent Generation and my father has these traits, too. They are very loyal to their companies and organizations. And hard work comes way more naturally for this generation than that of future generations. While my mother is often busy planning her community organization conventions, my father still works full time and recently celebrated 45 years of loyalty with his union. 

Baby Boomers:

The Baby Boomers are around 48-66 these days. They’ve grown up in the age of civil rights and female liberation. There is much social turmoil and aggression in some areas. 

My aunts and uncles fall in this generation. They tend to be explorers and optimistic. While my aunts went into education realm, my uncles were business owners and engineers. 

Generation X:

My brothers and I all fall in this generation during the war in Vietnam, Watergate, and the start of MTV. These 36-47 year olds tend to be individualistic and skeptical of authority. This may attest to friction between supervisors and this generation. 

It seems we do have some issues with older supervisors and tend to prefer to be individuals, different from everyone else. This goes from what we wear to the cars we drive and most importantly, be different than everyone else in our work environment. 

Millennial Generation:

Millennial grew up in the age of AIDS and advancement of technology. I also have some Millenial traits. Millenials tend to be tech-comfortable and family centric. We have optimism like that of the Baby Boomer Generation. 

In this generation there are now more ecommerce small businesses and these consumers prefer shopping online for cheaper rates and comparison shopping. The world as we know it revolves around technology. 

Generation Z:

The hardly talked about Generation Z is the 18 and younger, still in school or possibly graduating from college group. These individuals grew up with personalized everything from Facebook profiles to SnapChat communities when the market crashed and our country is sending troops to the Middle East after the tragedy on 9/11. 

This is the generation of my nieces and nephews and my son. These young ones will soon be entering our work force if they haven’t already. They aren’t trusting of the political system and are always connected. They bring multi-tasking to a whole new level than ever before. 

Bridging the gap:

The graphic above is just an example of the various generations. It’s a give and take for the “cut-off” years where some of us blend into more than one generation. It is important to consider when and there individuals grew up to better understand them and their work ethic and personalities. 

We must remember that everyone has struggles we know nothing about and it is best to be uplifting and encouraging. We should continue to build relationships with each individual person we interact with as much as we can. And offer assistance wherever possible. 

How do the generation gaps affect your work environment?

The taboo subject – Money Monday

Why is it that we don’t talk about money and finances on a regular basis? Life revolves around it and our society thrives on it. Yet, no one likes to disclose their money successes or money troubles. 

It’s always so hush hush that it’s no wonder so many of us are in crazy debt or getting divorced because of the stress of not having enough. Yet, we don’t talk to each other about it, not even in our own marriages!

We tend to keep our finances secret because it shows how we manage our money, or the lack of it. It shows how much in debt we’ve put ourselves in or possibly how we try to seem richer through the material things we possess. Whatever the case, the material possessions says nothing about actual finances! There is zero need to be jealous that you saw on someone on your Facebook feed has nice clothes or drives a nice car. It really means nothing about his or her financial management. 

Recently, I started working with a finance program that has encouraged me to see all the bills I owe and when I owe it. I’m also tracking every single purchase I make. According to my cash flow, I have about $100 to spend a week on variable spending like gas for the car and food to eat. Here in Hawaii, that doesn’t stretch very far and I can only hope we already have enough to last this week because I’ve already spent half of it on school shorts for my son!

Now to work on getting some of these bills paid a little quicker, consolidation on my student loans, and start saving up for a rainy day and for that 14-day cruise I want to take in 2020!

This is crushing my spirit

For the second time this year, my son has had this phantom fever and mysterious cough. The first time we spent hours at the doctors office and at the Emergency Room, with no answers or diagnosis with a bill for over $700. Now it’s happening again and I cannot afford to stay home with him. It crushes my spirit. 

Knowing that I need to work when my son needs me most is heart-breaking. Yes, I can take him to work with me occasionally, but while he’s sick is not the place for him. Instead I must resort to leaving him with my mother. 

Mamas, you are not alone. It’s perfectly normal to prefer to stay home with your kiddo when he’s not well. We are typically the nurturer and have a very different relationship with our kiddo than their father. 

While my husband tries to be there for our son, it’s a different kind of relationship. The kiddo still gravitates to me when he’s not feeling well. It’s crushes my spirit that I can’t be there when he needs me. 

Great way to end your day

I found a great article on Entrepreneur magazine: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/296898?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email

It offers amazing suggestions for ending your day so that you’re better prepared to start the next day! I am totally going to use a few of these this week!!

I particularly like the part that says to leave only the necessities out and put everything else away. Why have extra clutter on your desk?

And I am a list maker, so making a To-Do list for the ne t day sounds absolutely perfect to set myself up for success! I like it!

Take a peak and tell me which you will be implementing and how it works out for you!

3 things to prepare for 4th of July celebrations

The 4th of July, Independence Day, whatever you choose to call it, here in the USA, we often celebrate this day outdoors! Picnics, barbecues, beaches, concerts, fireworks, the works! 

While the Declaration of Independence was written on July 2nd and most of the signers signed it on the 4th. Historians say all the signatures were not completed until August 2nd. Regardless of the signing details, we have celebrated the 4th of July since 1941.

Regardless of where you are across this country, you will highly likely be outdoors. Keep in mind three very important things to remember on this holiday:

#1 – Use broadspectrum sunscreen

Broad spectrum sunscreen is the best quality sunscreen out there to block out dangerous UVA and UVB rays. Direct sunlight and indirect sunlight, the UV rays don’t care, it’s looking to get you! Keep in mind that not all broadspectrum sunscreens are the same. Some are definitely better than others! 

#2 – Hydrate

Make sure you hydrate! You’re outside in the heat, potentially a sweaty day. The last thing your companions want is to rush you to the hospital with heat exhaustion or dehydration! Colder water is even better!

#3 – Have fun!

This is a celebration. If there’s someone around who hits a nerve, step away and redirect your attention somewhere else. Arguing on this holiday is not worth it! Once again, it’s a celebration! Let’s celebrate!!

While some people will need to work on this day of celebrations, be kind and understand that they would rather be hanging out than being at work! Have fun and enjoy the celebrations!!