3 things to know before taking your child to a pedodontic dentist

“Did you brush your teeth?” I ask my son every night. “Yes,” he replies every single time. “I don’t mean this morning or last night. I mean tonight,” I respond. Suddenly there’s a lightbulb, “Oh!” as he jumps up to brush his teeth.

No, really, why do we constantly need to repeat ourselves every single day?! My brain says that the child should figure this out by now. But maybe, just maybe, he doesn’t actually SEE me brushing my own teeth so he doesn’t really know if it’s necessary?

This teeth brushing has been an issue for the last 8 years. Yesterday, my child ended up with a tooth extraction because an old cavity went bad and it was giving him a toothache. Our family dentist referred us to a pedodontic dentist. The last one we saw was amazing, but they book up quickly and we had to wait 3 months for an appointment! So our dentist referred us to a different pedodontic dentist.

My 8 year old and I go to this new dentists office. There’s a handful of children in the waiting room. The office staff review all the paperwork with me. We get called to an exam room where the dentist counts my son’s teeth, all foreign to my son as each tooth has a name. If I recall correctly letters represent baby teeth and numbers represent permanent teeth.

The dentist then discusses with me about how he can squeeze my son into his schedule for an extraction, as recommended by the family dentist. All was going well. My son is already at an age where parents sit out front while the child is sees the dentist alone. No parent around this area of the office. I’m asked to prepay for the procedure which I willingly do as it’s been recommended by our trusted family dentist.

My son is 8 and having a tooth extracted. I imagine the dentist walking him through the process, explaining what he might feel and hear and see. Then my son comes out with a tooth extracted and swollen. While lost in my imagination, I’m also pretending to read a book and watch the people around me.

An hour or so later, I hear my son’s name and I look up. I see the office staff person walking my son out. He has a gauze piece in his mouth, it’s likely too much and he wants to gag. I ask if he wants to change the gauze he nods. They change his gauze.

As we walk out of the office he starts crying and holding his cheek. He acts very angry. The walk to the car was a stressful one. My son’s pain level must have been higher than he expected. He cried and screamed. He didn’t know how to express himself.

We change his gauze again in the car. Drive home to give him some non-aspirin painkiller. As soon as we got in the house, he was crying loudly while pounding his fists on the floor. I changed the gauze pad, AGAIN. Then I asked if he wants to go to school. There’s only liquids until it stops bleeding, soft foods for 24-hours, and some salt water gentle swooshing the next day-3 days until the gums heal. No straws for 24-hours, too! No school today, please.

He finally calmed down about an hour after I gave him a non-aspirin painkiller and was playing on my iPad on the floor. He was distracted and comfortable. He was safe. He was missing a tooth and the bleeding had subsided. He’s was a much happier kid.

It was easier to talk to him after he calmed down. He shared that no one told him what would be happening during the procedure, step by step. He didn’t know what he might hear, what he might feel, or what to do if he feels pain. He had his arms held down so he couldn’t move. They placed a monitor in his face with the same show shown everywhere in the office.

My son also said he felt pain like he’s never felt before. Shouldn’t he have been numbed so he doesn’t feel anything? I didn’t feel any pain when my wisdom was pulled. He says that’s why he was screaming and pounding the floor when we got home. It was his way of holding onto his aggression until we were in a safe place. I’m blessed he at least knows how to do THAT.

3 things to know from what I learned from this experience (that I hopefully won’t need to go through any longer):

  • Observe your children as they floss and brush their teeth! I trusted that he knows how to floss and brush. Apparently, I’ve been wrong.
  • Ask a LOT of questions to the treating dentist for the CHILD’s understanding, not just your own. They process things different and a procedure like an extraction isn’t exactly an every day event your child will experience. I’ve never forgotten my experiences and I doubt my son will either.
  • Ensure your child knows you love him. I left my son without the usual hug and left the area. In hindsight, I should have ensured he knew what was going to happen instead of just going with the flow. My heart aches for my son as he had no clue how this would all go down.

Developing Discipline

One of the best emails I receive regularly comes from Success.com. It always has great tips and tricks for how to be successful.

What does "success" mean to you? Everyone will define "success" differently and it's all about perspective. In the Success Insider podcasts each interviewer is asked what "success" means to them.

Just today I found this article about developing discipline: http://www.success.com/blog/7-ways-to-develop-daily-discipline?utm_source=Maropost&utm_medium=Email&utm_campaign=Newsletters&utm_term=Inside%20Success&mpweb=574-4200614-742340835

In a nutshell, Success.com has 10 And tips for developing discipline:

  1. Set big goals
  2. Set clear goals
  3. Know that every day matters
  4. Don't argue with the plan
  5. Build a no-matter-what mindset
  6. Plan a routine
  7. Commit
  8. Understand the transformation process
  9. Go above feelings
  10. Resist the rain
  11. Find pleasure in the hard work

Check out the site for a description of each. Wonderful stuff! Which ones are you doing and which do you need help with?

Nighttime leg cramps

Growing up, my mother often complained about cramps in her legs at night. I remember hearing her saying, "Ow, ow, ow, ow!" in her bedroom. These charley horses were quite common in my mother's life and I never understood why. Until this morning…

About ten minutes before my alarm was to go off, I had the worst cramp in my right calf ever. I have never experienced such a cramp before. Technology is amazing because as soon as the pain subsides, I came straight to the internet to find out what causes leg cramps at night.

Did you know nighttime leg cramps are a pretty common thing? Many of us suffer from it, but we don't have to!! According to my brief research, nighttime leg cramps, or charley horses, are often caused by several reasons:

  • Dehydration
  • Over exercising or not stretching enough before and after as well as before bed
  • Lack of calcium, magnesium, and potassium

Now, drinking water has always been hard for me. I'm lucky if I drink two cups a day regularly. As I grow older I am working towards getting more water in my body before I shrivel up like a raisin! New goal: Drink 8 cups of water a day.

Exercising is something I try to do, but not strenuous. I ride a stationary bike at home so I am still present with my family, or at least close enough to know my son is not burning down the house. But the stretching is something I haven't been doing and this could be adding to my cramps. New goal: stretch before and after exercise as well as before and right after sleep.

Getting enough calcium, magnesium, and potassium may also be a concern for me. I have no idea which foods contain these nutrients! I Googled it! I found a great article on livestrong.com: http://www.livestrong.com/article/70088-list-foods-rich-magnesium-potassium/

New goal: Eat snacks throughout each day that contain nuts, seeds, legumes, whole grains, fruits and vegetables.

The ultimate result that I am looking for in all this is: No more nighttime leg cramps!! Today is a new day and I will stick to these goals for 7-days and evaluate my progress.

Be heart healthy on Workout Wednesday

Children love playing with their friends. They have more energy than many adults know what to do with! Heck, they run circles around me while I wish I had half their energy! Why is that?

Children are so resilient! They can be at soccer or football practice for an hour then want to keep running around afterward! Where does this energy come from?!

These kids are naturals at heart healthy activity. They find fun games to play that get their cardio in naturally. And on a side note, it teaches them socialization skills! Win-win! 

As adults, we find it so hard to squeeze in some exercise. It is recommended that adults get 20-30 minutes of cardio in 3-4 times a week. But where does that fit into your jam-packed schedule?!

Whether you’re in it to lose weight or to just remain heart-healthy, get that cardio in early. Cardio before breakfast forces your body to burn fat instead of the food you just ate. It’s a great way to lose weight! 

Can’t leave the house because you have small children who need supervision? Find a way to get cardio in while at home where you can keep an eye on those kids! Even if it’s a treadmill or stationary bike, raising that heart rate is very important for blood circulation! 

Did you know cardio also increases your metabolism? That was a buzz word once that everyone envied those with a high metabolism because they could eat whatever they wanted and never seem to gain a pound. Some of us have a natural high metabolism while the rest of us need to work to get it. 

Now, if cardio is so important and useful and it’s suggested we do it before breakfast, a great time is getting up before everyone else to squeeze it in! You will have more energy throughout the day and the morning shower will feel amazing! 

What kind of cardio do you get in regularly?

Bridging the generation gap in the workplace

There are many ways we bridge gaps in our workplace environment from gender, race, culture, origin, and age. When it comes to age, however, there’s so much more that comes with it than the years we’ve existed. Our work ethic, motivation, and natural tendencies seem to revolve around our environment and society. There are six generations that exist today whonkijely meet specific traits for the workplace. 


G1 are generally born on or around 1936 and experienced major events like WWI and the Great Depression. During this time period people could only buy when they were allowed to, rations were common-place, and hoarding may have been common. Traits of this generation included formalities and uniformity. It was more important for public interest than personal gain. Everything surrounded around making sure everyone had the necessities to survive and worked together make it day to day. 

This is my grandparents generation. Technically, my father falls under this as well. During the Great Depression, this forced people to be more cautious to not wasting anything. Living on a farm, my father grew up eating various parts of animals, not just the shoulder, leg, or wing. There is less waste for this generation. Use what you have and buy only what you need. 

Silent Generation:

The Silent Generation are about 67-75 years old now. They also grew up in the Great Depression, but they also grew up during WWII, and when the television and telephones hit retailers. Entertainment and communication was no longer required people to be face to face! 

I suppose my mother falls under Silent Generation and my father has these traits, too. They are very loyal to their companies and organizations. And hard work comes way more naturally for this generation than that of future generations. While my mother is often busy planning her community organization conventions, my father still works full time and recently celebrated 45 years of loyalty with his union. 

Baby Boomers:

The Baby Boomers are around 48-66 these days. They’ve grown up in the age of civil rights and female liberation. There is much social turmoil and aggression in some areas. 

My aunts and uncles fall in this generation. They tend to be explorers and optimistic. While my aunts went into education realm, my uncles were business owners and engineers. 

Generation X:

My brothers and I all fall in this generation during the war in Vietnam, Watergate, and the start of MTV. These 36-47 year olds tend to be individualistic and skeptical of authority. This may attest to friction between supervisors and this generation. 

It seems we do have some issues with older supervisors and tend to prefer to be individuals, different from everyone else. This goes from what we wear to the cars we drive and most importantly, be different than everyone else in our work environment. 

Millennial Generation:

Millennial grew up in the age of AIDS and advancement of technology. I also have some Millenial traits. Millenials tend to be tech-comfortable and family centric. We have optimism like that of the Baby Boomer Generation. 

In this generation there are now more ecommerce small businesses and these consumers prefer shopping online for cheaper rates and comparison shopping. The world as we know it revolves around technology. 

Generation Z:

The hardly talked about Generation Z is the 18 and younger, still in school or possibly graduating from college group. These individuals grew up with personalized everything from Facebook profiles to SnapChat communities when the market crashed and our country is sending troops to the Middle East after the tragedy on 9/11. 

This is the generation of my nieces and nephews and my son. These young ones will soon be entering our work force if they haven’t already. They aren’t trusting of the political system and are always connected. They bring multi-tasking to a whole new level than ever before. 

Bridging the gap:

The graphic above is just an example of the various generations. It’s a give and take for the “cut-off” years where some of us blend into more than one generation. It is important to consider when and there individuals grew up to better understand them and their work ethic and personalities. 

We must remember that everyone has struggles we know nothing about and it is best to be uplifting and encouraging. We should continue to build relationships with each individual person we interact with as much as we can. And offer assistance wherever possible. 

How do the generation gaps affect your work environment?

The taboo subject – Money Monday

Why is it that we don’t talk about money and finances on a regular basis? Life revolves around it and our society thrives on it. Yet, no one likes to disclose their money successes or money troubles. 

It’s always so hush hush that it’s no wonder so many of us are in crazy debt or getting divorced because of the stress of not having enough. Yet, we don’t talk to each other about it, not even in our own marriages!

We tend to keep our finances secret because it shows how we manage our money, or the lack of it. It shows how much in debt we’ve put ourselves in or possibly how we try to seem richer through the material things we possess. Whatever the case, the material possessions says nothing about actual finances! There is zero need to be jealous that you saw on someone on your Facebook feed has nice clothes or drives a nice car. It really means nothing about his or her financial management. 

Recently, I started working with a finance program that has encouraged me to see all the bills I owe and when I owe it. I’m also tracking every single purchase I make. According to my cash flow, I have about $100 to spend a week on variable spending like gas for the car and food to eat. Here in Hawaii, that doesn’t stretch very far and I can only hope we already have enough to last this week because I’ve already spent half of it on school shorts for my son!

Now to work on getting some of these bills paid a little quicker, consolidation on my student loans, and start saving up for a rainy day and for that 14-day cruise I want to take in 2020!

The new Saturday morning cartoons…

Way back when, there were back to back cartoons all Saturday mornings. It was the grandest thing to look forward to each week! Do you recall the lineup? I can’t for the life of me. But I do remember gettingbup early and watching those Saturday morning cartoons with my brothers! The good old days! 

These days, it seems cartoons can be watched on any day. My son watched cartoons on Netflix and Amazon Prime Video and Hulu. There’s nothing to look forward to anymore like the old Saturday morning cartoons! 

Our Saturday mornings are now filled with chores and cleaning. Nothing wrong with that, right? Thankfully, he’s learning to be helpful with the cleaning of the bathroom. If only I could get him to tidy up his bedroom. 

And instead of being marketed with hundreds of advertising in one morning, my son just watches the show and that’s it! I’ll admit I love that part!

What’s your replacement for the old Saturday morning cartoons?

Word of the day Wednesday, May 24, 2017

A word I started hearing quite a bit a few weeks ago and even more the last few days: 

What IS collusion?? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines collusion as a secret agreement or cooperation especially for an illegal or deceitful purpose acting in collusion with the enemy. 

For example, you hear people gossiping or talking about things other than what their job is to do. This is collusion! Why? Because we get paid to do our job, not to gossip or talk about other topics. How much time each day do you spend doing things other than your job? Don’t be embarrassed if your answer is your entire shift 😬, it’s more common than you think! Does it make it right? Not necessarily. Please proceed as you desire. 

Now my family and I are listening to a news program and they have said the word “collusion” every other minute for the last half hour. 😳 The collusion this news program is talking about is evidence or no evidence of collusion regarding the votes cast for Donald Trump in the presidential election. I’m not trying to get into a discussion about this new administration, rather about the use of the word collusion. 

Collusion is common. It’s all around us whether we like it or not. Another news example is this past week, a cell phone provider had several stores where their employees walked out from their job. They were colluding with their company. There was a secret agreement for these employees to walk out on their jobs on the same day and at the same time for the purpose of disrupting their companies business process. 

Can you think of any collusion happening in your world?

Skincare Saturday, May 20, 2017

What’s the best way to care for your skin when working out and exercising? There’s so many ways to keep your skin healthy!


  • Be sure the equipment you use is sanitized properly. For those of you gym rats, you don’t know what was left behind after the last person. Take a few moments to wipe down the equipment before you use it. 
  • Remove makeup before your workout. Any makeup may clog your pores as you perspire resulting in breakouts. 
  • Pull back long hair. If your hair is lengthy, pull it back. Any products you use in your hair could drop down into your face, causing breakouts. 
  • Use my R+F Eye Cloths to remove even stubborn makeup

During workout

  • Perspiration is a great detoxifier
  • Try not to touch your face
  • Hydrate! Drink lots of water to stay hydrated 


  • Shower soon after you complete your workout; waiting until you get home later could result in clogged pores (not just on your face!)
  • Avoid over scrubbing; this could result in drying out your skin and result in eczema or other skin irritations
  • Moisturizer your skin with R+F Body Moisturizer and one of the facial moisturizers that fits your skin concerns

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It’s about Time Tuesday, May 16, 2017

“It helps to actually open the book you carry around everywhere.” That’s what I tell myself every day. What’s the sense of taking this book around with you everywhere u go unless you actually open it and read it! Otherwise it’s just decoration!

I’ve been hanging onto this book, Listen Live Repeat by Karen Ehman. I’ve read another book by this author and it was amazing, so I thought I’d try this one out. And this book was a book study with Proverbs 31 Ministries recently. As always, I fell behind on Day 1. 

Anyway, the chapter I’ve been carrying this book around for over a month. I just read chapter 2 yesterday. It was about time. We should sacrifice our own time now and then to help someone save their time. It could be to help them get their laundry done, now their lawn, go grocery shopping, whatever it might be.

When we give up our own time to help someone with their time, it builds relationships. It helps us to grow closer to one another because of that little thing you did for someone else. Be on the look out to help someone in their time of struggle. How can you be there for them in their time of need? It doesn’t even need to be someone you know!

Time is precious. When you take time out of your own life to help someone else, it means so much. So give of your time with a cheerful heart, not out of obligation. In this day and age, we are hard pressed for time, constantly in a rush. 

A Stanford University study suggests taking 10-minutes today doing something for yourself you hadn’t already planned. And take 30-minutes to donsomething for someone else. https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/research-there-are-big-benefits-giving-your-time

What are you doing with your time today?