This is crushing my spirit

For the second time this year, my son has had this phantom fever and mysterious cough. The first time we spent hours at the doctors office and at the Emergency Room, with no answers or diagnosis with a bill for over $700. Now it’s happening again and I cannot afford to stay home with him. It crushes my spirit. 

Knowing that I need to work when my son needs me most is heart-breaking. Yes, I can take him to work with me occasionally, but while he’s sick is not the place for him. Instead I must resort to leaving him with my mother. 

Mamas, you are not alone. It’s perfectly normal to prefer to stay home with your kiddo when he’s not well. We are typically the nurturer and have a very different relationship with our kiddo than their father. 

While my husband tries to be there for our son, it’s a different kind of relationship. The kiddo still gravitates to me when he’s not feeling well. It’s crushes my spirit that I can’t be there when he needs me. 

Getting over work outside the home guilt

It’s summer. You have a choice of spending oodles for someone else to watch your child or taking off from work to be there with your child. If you’re lucky, a family member or friend may volunteer to watch your child. Sometimes it’s okay to bring your child to work. Whatever it is, there’s no need to feel guilty. 

As frustrating as it is that you need to go to work while someone else takes care of your child, it’s okay. As your child grows older, he or she will understand why you had to leave him or her with someone else. It’s hard now, I get it. I’m doing it. 

I’m one of those lucky ones who can bring my child to work on certain days and my son loves it, even though he has to stay in my office while I do my thing. He plays on my iPad and insists he’s hungry every moment of the day. But, knowing he’s safe and he’s not causing any trouble is a relief for me! 

Now, I do feel the guilt when I leave him with my mother or sister-in-law or when I used to send him to a very expensive summer program that he hated. It pushes me towards increasing my part-time CEO income so that I can stay home with him during his next break. All calculations aside, the next break is fall break, October 7-16; we are trying to get to a wedding around then in Illinois as well. 

Regardless of what you need to do, sort through your priorities. If you are financially in need to work, then work. If your child or family desperately needs your presence due to illness or something else, take that time with your family. Yes, family comes before career in most instances, but sometimes life just can’t move on without an income. 

If you’re looking for part-time work but don’t want to be away from your family more than you already are, there are many work from home opportunities out there. I’ve been a part of one of those companies for a little over a year and I can honestly say that it is a blessing to have extra income that I can accomplish from anywhere because it is virtual. Message me to learn more about how you, too, can earn extra income and eventually stay home with your child.